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ENGAGEMENT PROTOCOLS BETWEEN DOMINANT’s AND SUBMISSIVES

A submissive should never assume that they know how a Dominant wishes to be addressed in our chatroom, every Dominant has a preference for how they wish to be known.  Dominants who have titles such as Sir, Master, Miss or Mistress in their username, should be address by their preferred tittle. While some will allow submissives to use their first name or will ask for polite courtesy and the use of Sir or Ma’am.

When it comes to addressing a Dominant in our group they should always have a capital letter at the beginning of their name.  When addressing a submissive they should always receive a lower case for the first letter of their name.

All submissive’s will treat other members of the group with the same respect and courtesy as shown to our dominant members.

Submissives, slaves and sissys are considered to be of equal rank and are allowed to speak freely between other subs and can refer to them on a first name basis.  Submissive titles tend to be pet names and are not to be used on a submissive by a dominant that is not in a dynamic with that submissive. Pet names such as baby, sweetie hunnie, baby girl / boy or little etc are considered to be very disrespectful in the BDSM community when used outside of a dynamic BDSM relationship. 

Switches shall be referred to by their scene name unless they have indicted that they are currently functioning as a dominant or serving as a submissive.

Single submissives will not pester or beg dominant members of our group to dominate them.  Be polite and be patient. You will not find the right Dominant by trying to rush into a Dom/sub relationship. 

If a dominant states, they are not interested or already have a submissive then you will respect that decision and abide by it without question. Do not disrespect our dominant members and push the matter further or try to continue the conversation at another time. Further action will be taken if submissives persistently violate this protocol.

In the main chat room if you wish to speak to an individual member privately, you must ask for permission in the main chat room first.

A Dominant should not engage in any private conversation or friend requests with an owned submissive or a submissive who is formally under protection, without their Dominant’s / Protector’s permission.

Don’t complain to others.  If a submissive has a concern or complaint it should be brought to the attention of your dominant or a member of our admin team.  Only present the facts or issues devoid of spin or a long-winded story.