Category : Diary/Journal

Sub Category : N/A

Demand respect from the submissive in the way he treats you.

When punishing the submissive, explain why. This serves as his indoctrination.

Always after a punishment, show a little compassion, after all your submissive is still a human being.

Respect and Obedience at all times. To the Mistress or Master of the House 

When doing something unarranged, ask the submissive.

Making a submission contract, this is a special moment that can be explored.

Tell the sub to do daily chores, so keep him or her connected to you

Not to do everything the submissive wants, but also to do a little of what the submissive wants.

Be tough when necessary, but be polite. It is not a frown or fear that will make the submissive obey you, but the admiration she or he will have for you.

Respect the submissives private environment, such as family, friends, and work life. Don’t mix things up.

Wearing a collar is important,  its a way for your submissive to feel connected to you.

A chastity device is really cool, it makes the session last for days, weeks or even months. And conditions his sexual pleasure to your presence.

Always show yourself superior in attitudes, but never in knowledge. We all have a lot to learn from others.

Don’t lie to the submissive. Better the hard and raw truth.

In case of more than one subs during a session, it’s nice to create a competition between them where you are the prize.

Have good equipment, better to have a few quality ones than to have a lot of bad ones.

A practical session is much more beneficial than a theoretical session. You’ll see that there are a lot of Dominants who know a lot of theory, but have little practical experience.

Do not demand anything financial from the sub, unless you are a Financial Dominator. In this case, make it clear from the beginning of the D/S relationship.

Don’t be with some “charity” submissive, they don’t want to be with a charity Dom. In addition to the session being terribly uncomfortable for the Dominant, there will be a uncomfortable atmosphere between the Dom and sub.

Try to find out as much as possible about the submissives, such as fetishes, boundaries, allergies, pain threshold etc.

Before beginning a  session with a submissive, you should  make it clear that BDSM involves risks, and make sure your submissive has a verbal and non-verbal safeword.

Only do more dangerous practices when you gain experience. For example special care needs to be taken with with breath control, gags that make breathing difficult, and urethral tubes etc.

Make it clear to the sub that BDSM is not sex with equipment. It’s much more than that.