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I’ve been pondering the idea that every single fear I have, at its core, boils down to a fear of rejection. For example, if I launch that new business I've had in mind, and if it fails, I would perceive its failure to mean that people rejected me and my ideas. If I express my feelings for someone and they don’t feel the same, I would perceive it as they have rejected me and my love. Even death could be viewed as a rejection by life.

And yet, I risk that rejection, the only difference really is to what degree. 

So many people see me as a risk-taker, willing to lay my heart out on the line in my creative projects, friendships, love and life. Why do I do that? What is it in me that has me choose this way of living when I experience the same fear of rejection as anyone else?

I guess it all boils down to this.... I understand a powerful truth. And the truth is, the more I allow myself to be seen, the more I allow myself to be loved.

Letting someone know I love them is one thing. Letting someone know HOW much I love them is another. Because it’s putting more of my heart on the table. And while that may mean more of my heart can be rejected, it also means more of my heart is able to be loved. More of myself is able to be accepted. Does that make sense?

Do I have walls up? Certainly. 
Do I sometimes take action or NOT take action because of uncertainty and fear? Absolutely. 
But at this stage it’s generally because I can’t see it. I didn’t know that it was fear. I was unaware that I was protecting myself. Which is why for me, my commitments are really twofold.

1. Develop my self-awareness.
2. Choose love in every moment I’m aware of.

If I can do these 2 things, I can rest knowing I’ve done the best I can. I can lean into the belief that no matter how it turns out, I’m not being “rejected” but instead I’m being offered an opportunity for something even more aligned. Whether that be a creative project, business idea, or romantic love.

So I'm going to do the best I can. I choose to love as deeply as I feel comfortable doing and to take the action steps to develop more comfortability so I can love even more. Which goes hand-in-hand with allowing myself to be seen more deeply, and therefore loved more deeply.

Because I am worth it. 

Comments

  • Nov 20, 2019

  • Maurice  Beres

    Maurice Beres

    Rejection is not necessarily failure depending how you interpret it 🦋you can accomplish a monumental task and be criticized by one or some with an agenda or personality issues 🦋Strong self confidence can modify rejection so that you are not crushed by others reactions Sometimes rejection might feel warranted We’re not perfect and it should not destroy us based on our expectations if you’ve never succeeded not in any- and Zee- that’s certainly not true with you- that would be anissue for anyone Secondly 🦋the more you extend yourself- the more you express your feelings- the. More you Put your trust in people and the more you Have high or perhaps unrealistic expectations The Brutal the result can be with those events that are risky On the other hand if you don’t take a chance you may miss a opportunity 🦋Common sense- experience and knowledge of the person or situation can be a good guide to you’re goal 🦋Inner strength and confidence atre also important factors🦋 You know there are never any guarantees but you can increase the odds may considering this I understand your concern but you have weathered so many storms and also basked in life’s beauty- I know what you are capable of ❤️🦋🦋🦋🦋❤️

    Nov 22, 2019

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    Nov 28, 2019

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