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As a mother of 3 growing teenagers ,I wonder how I didnt see this coming..
They are going through overwhelming stage of external and internal struggles..a phase when every teenager experiences the persistent chorus of raging hormones that transforms even the most sensible ones into lovelorn souls craving to dwell in the hearts of every second person they meet.
I have always been a liberal Mother,more of a friend to my kids.They have always shared everything happening in their lives without any hesitation.But lately k have begun to feel that my position as a navigator in their lives is oddly replaced by mobiles,friends who have essentially become their compass who they entrust the duty of steering their lives in the right direction.
I do not want to reprimand them for their unruly behaviour or their budding friendships as under no circumstances would I want to close the channel of communication that ensures I n ke whatever is going on in their hearts,and lives.But I cannot let them.forget the core values that will build them healthy and secured relationships on the future without causing distractions or altering their career plans.
As a mother who gets frantic with worry when they aren't at home,I often feel that I want the day to speed up but time to go slow..
As a friend, I have always tried to understand my children's predicaments and their need for space and time,however as a mother I try to reinforce the values of discipline honesty, character so that they become resilient and feel gratitude even in the lifes most challenging moments.
I want to teach them.to differentiate between facts and fiction and be alert In life.
But most importantly I need to make them understand the thin line between being a friendly parent and a friend ..
I maybe friendly but i an their Mother I am trying to build a rapport with them so that they value my concerns and consider my advices impactful
.I know this is just the beginning,and there will be many more hurdles to cross,many storms to face but for every problem of my child I will always find a way or make it.coz I am a mother...
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Maurice Beres
I f your children view you first as a friend Then you roll as a mother is more challenging m🦋even if they see you as mom they have each other as well as out Influences to work against you Under ideal conditions parenting teen Agee’s is tough Your position has to be calmly by firmly explained 🦋that should include any disciplinary action you may have to take It would also be Important to speak to them all at the same time to make sure they all hear the same approach 🦋you can then see them individually as needed You of course would have to use your own judgment to change or modify any of this🦋I wish you well mom🦋🦋🦋
Aug 27, 2019
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I am not a mom but i have a mom who is also my best friend. Teenagers are wired differently. They are at the stage of in-between in their lives. They are no longer kids, but they are also not adults. This is the time where they are most curious. They want to explore things on their own with people whom they feel understand their need to do so, which is their friends. They may seem a bit distant from you, they may keep some things from you, and that is normal for a teenager. Bur no matter how 'independent' they may think they are, they still need their mother. You can set some rules like how much time they are allowed to use their mobile on school days or set a curfew time for when they go out with friends, etc and you have to stand your ground and be firm with them. At the end of the day, you were the one who raised them and taught them about values. You should trust that you have raised them well enough.
Aug 27, 2019