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People come with a wide variety 
of personalities 
I call it the behavior package 
Every individual’s is different and unique 
That includes two people living millions 
Of miles apart as well as identical twins

We are defined by our behavior characteristics as well as our physical 
One of the common ones atributal to 
almost all is to love and be loved

Infants and children can’t articulate this
need but it is inherent in their makeup
As we mature we develop a mental list of expectations fueled by a multitude of influences from role models -media And initially by our parents 
Young children as well as adults often make s subconscious decision 
“Do I want to be like my mom or dad?”
Usually their first role model 
As we enter the world of relationships 
we make decisions as to the people 
we’d like to be with 
That includes infants and young children 
as it usually is a parental decision 
When we reach the point where we can choose our relationships is when it 
 becomes more complicated as expressed so often in our writings 
We develop a list of expectations and
are axposed to a special challenge- 
Do I believe what the person says or what the person does ?
The difference between saying and doing is not apparent in the start of any
relationship : lf we like what is being said it stimulates our interest to continue 
Even if there are elements that we dislike our needs are  dimmed by our attraction and expectation 
That too is expressed in the writings
The classic cases are those who are physically or emotionally abused and still say “but i still love him (or her)”
And though they have the ability to leave 
they hang on with the expectation of 
behavioral change
We know how difficult it is to change 
Our own  behavior 
This behavior package has been developing  and is established firmly 
for most adult
The challenge is how do we separate 
the talk from the behavior -
how do we evaluate expectations from 
reality and  at what point do we make a decision best for our future ?
As always these are individual decisions that can be agonizing to make 
The writings are the evidence of many struggling with this and the choices they’ve contemplated or have already 
made  
There are no pat answers-each individual decides for themselves 
hopefully with support- guidance and aid
We all deserve happiness- that’s our entitlement 
If we believe that then it will be utmost in our efforts to pursue and separate 
desire and expectations from the reality 
of our situation