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"I can't continue working with you on the project because I don't have the time. I am busy with work, I get home late, my mother demands all of my attention during my free time which basically leaves me no time to spare to work on the project with you."
Above were the "reasons" given to me by another writer when he and I were working on a book collaboration.
They sounded more like excuses to me.
I called him out on that, wanting to hold him accountable for his unacceptable behaviour, and the conversation blew up into a nasty argument. He refused to budge from his stand of not wanting to finish what we both started, and I was left hanging high and dry. As a result, the project was abandoned; a year and a half worth of time and hard work dismissed and discarded like my time and effort didn't mean a thing.
I was beyond disappointed. My spirit took a nosedive, my trust issues triggered.
I had offers from other writers to collaborate after that incident but my phobia of being played and let down, stopped me from going down that road again.
Yesterday, I touched base with an old and dear friend. We spoke for almost four hours on the phone. When I told Tammy of this incident, she said to me, "there will always be a reason why".
There will always be a reason why some people don't have the energy to show up 100%.
There will always be a reason why some people can't focus.
There will always be a reason why some people cannot keep their word.
There will always be a reason why some people cannot commit themselves.
There will always be a reason why some people fail.
There will always be a reason why some people stay stagnant in their own little bubble.
I thought about what she said and somehow I couldn't accept the idea of "there will always be a reason why".
I mean, isn't this human experience in this journey of life all about personal development, personal growth, and progressing towards reaching the level of our higher self?
If we keep coming up with a list of "there will always be a reason why", then how are we going to progress and grow in our own life journey?
Nothing is going to change until we DECIDE that THERE ISN'T a good enough reason why.
It is us who get to decide what our experience of anything is.
It is us who get to decide that we're NOT too tired, too upset, too overwhelmed, too lazy, too whatever to show up and give life our 110%.
US! Not someone else.
The CHOICE to decide lies in each of our hands. Because every single one of us could come up with a list of reasons why we can't or why we didn't.
The people who get to where they want to go and are proud of the people they have become are the ones who showed up regardless of circumstances and gave it their all.
The people who didn't let their circumstances dictate their futures.
The people who looked for the reasons why they COULD, why they MUST, and why there was NO OTHER OPTION.
At the end of the day, we are the ones who get to decide our own path.
We are the ones who get to decide our own personal growth.
We are the ones who need to decide that we are not the kind of people who show up only "as long as...."; we are the ones who need to decide that we are the kind of people who show up "no matter what".
The question is....
How badly do we want it?
How badly do we want to grow?
How badly do we want to create the reality that we have always dreamed of?
If you decide that you WON'T accept failure, then there is NO EXCUSE that is good enough for not showing up for yourself.
You go out there and you make it happen. No matter what.
You FIND A WAY. No matter what.
Because when we decide that we are the "no matter what" people, there is NOTHING that can stop us from ultimately achieving our goals.