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We are so often engrossed in ourselves 
That we fail to see and appreciate the positives in others

Well- I would argue it’s our lives 
It’s what we’re going through 
I have to exert enough energy 
judt to deal with that

True I would argue but wouldn’t 
It be helpful to you as well as the
Other one(s) in your relationships 
If you felt they truly understood you
And you them?

True I would argue but I’m so intent
On getting my point across that sometime I don’t have the time or patience to deal with them

True I would argue but if you valued that
Relationship for you or a significant other
Wouldn’t it be better to listen and understand their view and hope that 
They would do the same?

True I would argue but at times they don’t know how to listen

True would argue -do you?

Hmmm-you know sometimes I’m so worked up over an issue I can’t wait to make my point

Isn’t that something that happens to the other person as well?
 True but how does one resolve this?

Let’s try this-Respect, Concern,Desire to maintain the relationship-are these 
Important elements?
Yes but——-
If they are wouldn’t it be vital  that the concerned parties understood this
Which in basically understanding
LISTENING?
We all listen in conversations
 don’t we?
You know better if you’ve listened to 
folks discuss controversial issues 

It all comes down to listening 
There are basically two kinds of listening 
Waiting (sometimes ) for the other person to finish so you can respond 
                 Or
Look directly at that person and try to put yourself in their place to see what they’re  going through 

That’s not easy 

But isn’t it worth trying in order to save or enrich the relationship ? 

But what if it doesn’t work?

I leave that answer up to you 

Would you want to at least come away  
With the knowledge that you tried to do the right thing or just say
“The hell with it (you)”?

Well it looks like relationships can be hard work just like listening 

You’re right so what do I do?

I,    would look in the mirror 
       and search my soul 
What would you do?