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She likes talking to you, but not every single day. She likes flirting with you, but not exclusively with you. She wants to hang out with you, but only on her terms, on her timetable. She wants power. She wants control. She wants to be the one in charge. She wants to be the one calling the shots. 

But you are too blind to see that. 

She ghosts you. She makes you feel invisible, like you are unworthy of a glimpse of her attention. And then, out of the blue, she comes crawling back like nothing ever happened. 

She makes a chump out of you. 

Why? Because she can. Because you will take her back with open arms. Because you get so excited hearing from her again that you won't demand an explanation from her. 

Tsk, tsk, tsk.... 

You might have been wondering where she went for weeks and what she had been up to. You might have sworn you would never speak to her again. But as soon as she texts you, your tune changes. You forgive her without incentive. You missed her so bad you lower your standards to allow room for her in your world. 

Sheesh! 

You are giving her permission to ghost again. You are showing her there aren't any consequences for treating you like dirt. You are letting her know it is okay to push you around as long as she comes back when she feels like it. 

What is wrong with you??!! 

Her excuses about ghosting you are inauthentic. They are lame. Crap. Bullshit. But she will never consider them lies. Technically, she was busy. Technically, she is sorry she kept you waiting for such a long time. Technically,  she didn't do anything wrong. 

Yeah, right. Hmph! 

But in reality, she would have set aside time to text you if you mattered to her. She would have given you updates even if they were short and brief. She would have sacrificed sleep to talk to you. She would have tapped out messages during her lunch break with a sandwich in one hand and her phone in the other. 

But she didn't. 

If she cared about you as much as you have always cared about her, she wouldn't have ignored your calls. She wouldn't have skimmed past your posts on social media without being tempted to hit you up. 

If she had strong feelings for you, she wouldn't have placed you on the back burner. She wouldn't have treated you like her plan B. She wouldn't have chosen to cut contact with you. 

When will you ever learn? 

Someone who cares about you will go out of their way to see you. They will call just to hear your voice. They will count down the hours, minutes, and seconds until they can be by your side. They will be as eager to see you as you are to see them. 

Yo! Wake up! 

She keeps ghosting you, coming back, and ghosting you again. There is definitely some other dude in the picture. There is definitely some other dude filling your place, keeping it warm until she gets bored and you become her interest again. 

Even if you are the only one in the picture, even if she has never wanted anyone except you, you deserve someone who stays. Not someone who flees when the mood strikes. Not someone who has trouble sticking around. 

Dude!!!! 

Stop settling for ghosts! Even if she reappears, it is only a matter of time until she fades away again. It is what ghosts do.