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Maybe he really loved you, and maybe she really cared. He probably wasn't lying when he said you were special, and she probably was telling you the truth when she told you she needed you. 
Maybe he was truly afraid of losing you, and maybe she did see a future with you. Maybe everything that was said at the moment was true, maybe they weren't all lies. And maybe all those promises were never intentionally meant to be broken. 
Maybe. 
We've all been there - in the dark, where mixed signals are sent our way and we can't totally figure them out. Do we stay or do we walk? What do we do? How do we decide what's right? 
Here's what makes all the difference and here's the questions you should ask yourself..... 
Where are they now? Are they here with you? Have the walked away from you? Why didn't they stay? Why didn't they hold on? Why weren't they beside you when you badly needed someone there? Why did he leave? Why did she walk away? 
Here's the thing, he can be Prince Charming when things are pretty and she can be your biggest fan when you're saying all the right things. But what happens when things turn ugly or when you say things they don't want to hear? Are they still as charming, still a fan? 
When the ride gets bumpy, the road gets darker and you're lost in the middle of nowhere, you'll need someone who shows up for you. You'll need someone who'll stay with you until you find your way home. You'll need someone who's willing to tread in the dark and risk getting lost with you. 
Maybe you've been walking alone and you're good at it. You know how to get around and you know you will eventually find your way. Maybe you feel you're better off alone and maybe there's that voice inside you that doesn't agree. 
So, what do you do? 
Be smart. If you're going to pick someone to join you, don't pick the one who is going to drop you off at the nearest exit. Pick the one who will stick around till the end. Pick the one who blasts the music so loud to silence your fears. Pick the one who holds your hand and tells you you're almost there. Pick the one who is willing to go to the ends of the earth with you. 
It's not about whether or not they mean what they said or whether their feelings were true. It's about where they are now. 
Are they with you or have they driven away? And if they have driven away, do yourself a favour and keep walking alone. 
At the end of the day, you don't need another temporary passenger. And you sure as hell don't need another fictitious closure.