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~I Challenge You (part 1), by Natasha Moran (ReneeRose🌹)~

Can I ask you something right now? If I asked you what you love about yourself, what would your answer be? Do you love the color of your eyes? Your long, short, curly, straight hair or bald head? Do you love your height? Is there a specific part of your body that is your best feature that you love? That’s great! Nice answer. If you couldn’t name anything about the way that you look on the outside that you like, how come? Figure out what it is that you wish to change and most importantly, figure out why you what to change it. Do you want to change because you just want a different look or do outside factors play a role in it? Often times, things like what our favorite ‘celebrities’’ look like or what others think beautiful means plays a part in allowing ourselves to second guess whether we look good or not. So it could be a mixture of you just wanting to try something new with your looks and outside factors. Do other people want you to look different but you have no real issues with the way you look? If this is the case, don’t change. I’ve had times where I felt like my appearance could be altered to satisfy others and have more people like me so I’d be happy. It’s been a long time since I felt like that. I soon realized having people show fake love to you isn’t going to truly make you happy and if it does, that feeling won’t last long. Choose to be happy on your own terms more so than searching for people outside your family who will do it for you. Over the course of a few years from being a teenager to being an adult now, I realized that the first thing we all notice about each other is what we all look like on the outside. That’s not a bad thing, but that pretty much sets the tone for how we think about each other and treat each other. At least some of us go by looks first. But I’d like to see a day where it’s not just what we look like, but what our motives are as a person. How we treat each other based on our behaviors, actions, and ability to care for each other.  Now, can I elaborate further on this question that I asked you? Is there anything that you like about yourself that can’t be seen by our eyes? Is there anything about your personality that you like? Is there anything on the inside that you like about yourself? Do you ever capitalize on how smart you are? Do you give yourself credit for how creative you are? Have you noticed that you are a charismatic person that people love talking to? Do you know how strong you are for battling your own mind and emotions sometimes but knowing how to not be afraid to reach out for help when you know you need it? Do you know you hold a great sense of bravery and you have an adventurous way about you? Did you ever think about any of those things as well as what your appearance looks like? Some have answered yes, but many have answered no. To the ones that can see how good of a person you are on the inside as well as loving what you look like on the outside, awesome! Don’t ever stop seeing your worth. To the ones who don’t think about the great qualities they have on the inside as well as the outside, I want to ask you why. Why don’t you see the brilliant and unique person you are when it comes to your personality? Is there anything about your personality that you don’t like and wish to change? If so, work on it. For me, it took me a long time to learn how to love myself fully. I’m still learning. In fact, I don’t think we ever get to a point in our lives where we stop learning and that goes for all things. Life, in my opinion, isn’t about finding yourself, but creating yourself, learning to like, love, cherish and have respect for yourself. After all, that’s the person you’re with the most and the person you’ll be with your whole life. It took me a while to realize that I was focusing on being liked by others for what I appeared to be, that I forgot to remember what kind of person I was underneath the surface. I almost lost the personality I developed and gained theirs. I am the kind of person to fall in love with someone’s personality, while also appreciating what my eyes can see. A person’s personality makes them even more attractive in my mind. You can’t have a beautiful or handsome face with no sense of self to offer. You can have both a nice face and a nice personality, but it takes time for you to truly like the person you’re looking at in the mirror. It takes time to truly acknowledge and show pride in all the things about you on both the inside and out. Everything takes time. Having patience, a strong will to keep going and maybe even support from loved ones is all you need to see it through. Work on your character as if you’re the writer of the story. I mean, you kind of are if you think about it. Yes, we don’t have 100% control over how our lives are shaped, but we have 100% control over how we react to it, how we handle it, how we perceive it and how we reshape it. Life is the story taking place in a variety of settings and we all are the characters in it. Learn to love your character and focus on your development. So, I challenge you and myself to write down all the things we like about ourselves, own them and be proud of them and write down all the things we don’t really like too much about ourselves and see how we can change them. Do you accept the challenge? I know I do. Thank you for reading this journal/diary entry. Stay awesome. 

~I Challenge You (part 1), by Natasha Moran (ReneeRose🌹)~