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As a kid, I was taught that all humans were created equally. Meaning, there was no favouritism in the process. Then as I grew older and was exposed to the reality of the world, I began to notice that people treat each other badly. Question is.... Why? Why do people lie, steal, hurt, cheat, etc? It just didn't make sense to me. And so, I began to look deeper to analyze these issues. 
Why do people lie? I am pretty sure all of us have been lied to and we ourselves have told a lie or two, be it a full-on lie to the face or a little white lie. We've all done it for whatever reason. What it had taught me is that things are not always as they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know their heart and remove your own masks to allow people to know yours.
Now, why do people steal? Say you go out for the night and when you come home you found that you house had been broken into and valuable things that you kept in the house are all gone. That family heirloom that was passed down from your great,great,great grandmother is gone, or the pendant and necklace that was given to you by your first boyfriend is gone.... you'd be brokenhearted, right? What it had taught me is that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have for you never know when you might lose it, and never, ever take your family and friends for granted because today is the only guarantee you have.
In today's world, there are so many cases of domestic violence and child abuse. For some reason some sick people feel it is okay to use another human as their punching bag. What this had taught me is that the human state is fragile. Protect and take care of your body as best you can because it is the only thing you are sure to have for as long as you live.
Today, there are a lot of bully cases going on in schools. Kids pick on other kids just for the fun of it. They mock, call names and even spread nasty rumours. What this had taught me is that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, don't judge them by how they look or act. Instead base your opinion on the contents of their heart.
All of us at some point in our lives have experienced a broken heart. Whether it was a puppy love or first love or unrequited love, the pain is tremendous. You feel like as though your heart is shattered into a million pieces. What this had taught me is that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. There is no guarantee. But don't turn your back on love because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings will make up for all the past hurts put together.
As humans, we all have feelings and whether we want to admit it or not, we are all sensitive creatures. A simple disagreement between family, friends or lovers can easily blow up into an argument which can escalate into a big fight when the wrong choice of words are used and applied in the wrong tone of voice. Next thing you know, somebody is holding a grudge. What this had taught me is that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is to forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt you is the most difficult, the most courageous, and the noblest thing a person can do.
Now, what happens when you find out that your lover or partner or spouse has been doing the dirty behind your back? You might accidentally see an exchange of love messages between your partner with someone on social media, or you might accidentally overhear a phone sex conversation between your lover and someone else, or you might accidentally catch your spouse red-handed. Any of this situation is not going to sit well with anyone. Nobody likes to be betrayed, right? Well, what this had taught me is that resisting temptation is human's greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptation. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted.
In my working experience, I have come across a lot of people who kiss ass just to get on top. I have had people sabotage my hard work then spin a story about how I am incompetent just because they wanted to have my position and my salary. What this had taught me is that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities.
When I was a teenager, I wasn't very popular among the girls because I did not share their behaviour of playing "Barbie"; getting all ditzy and giddy in front of boys. I was the opposite of them. And because of that, the girls felt I was a freak and a weirdo. What this had taught me is that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control.
Now, some people may feel they are unlovable or unworthy of love. Maybe because they come from a dysfunctional family where showing love is not part of their agenda, or maybe they have been really unlucky in love that they feel love is just not meant for them. Then out of the blue, someone comes along and shows them love and kindness, things they have never seen before which would probably make them question everything about themselves. What this had taught me is that love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness and acceptance can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one less evil deed. A human's capacity to love is the greatest gift he/she has. Human alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused.
Now, the big question.... When you enter someone's life, whether by choice or chance, what will your lesson be? Will you teach love or harsh reality? 
Each one of us has power over the balance of love. Use that power wisely.