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Sub Category : Motivation

A narcissistic girlfriend mocks her boyfriend; criticises him often, belittles him in front of her friends. His pride takes a hard beat down but he doesn't fight back and continues to stay with her. A scenario which is pretty common today.
A controlling mother who plays the "helpless old lady" card on her grown up child to the point that she takes away his freedom to have friends, to socialise or to live his life simply because she wants him at her beck and call. Due to the love and respect he has for his mother, he allows himself to be his handler, his drill sergeant, his soul keeper. Also a scenario that is quite common nowadays. 
Question is, why are scenarios like these becoming a common thing in today's society? Why are people allowing themselves to be bullied into submission? 
Often we hold back things that we need to do for our own healing because we don't want to upset someone else. We live in our pain to spare them theirs. And what does that do? It slowly eats away our soul. 
Do what you need to do for YOU, not someone else.
I think we have all done this; choose to overlook someone's behavior or excuse it because we feel it's disloyal to turn our back on them. Then we spend days and nights questioning ourselves of our own behavior of wanting to be loyal and trying to justify our own excuse for wanting to stay loyal. 
Is it worth the sleep you've lost as you lie awake wondering if you matter to them? 
If you think about it, I mean, really think about it, when you start to question your worth to someone, deep down you already know the answer. It's just a matter of accepting or denying it. True, cutting ties can and will break your heart but is it really a loss? 
No. 
What you're losing is just the idea of who you thought that person was.
Open your eyes. Look at yourself and what other people's selfishness has done to you. Ask yourself these questions.... 
"Am I happy?"
"Don't my feelings matter?"
"Don't I count?"
Love yourself!