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In India, marraiges are on the basis of 3 rules:
1. The boy and girl should be of same caste and religion.
2. The boy should be more educated than the girl.
3. The boy or girl should be more good looking than their own child.
In my case, the boy I love is not the same caste as me, he's not more educated than me, and he's average looking.
I was born in such a family, where nothing goes beyond the descions taken by my mom and dad. I had to give up most of my wishes and dreams, as I didn't wanted to hurt them. Everything including what subject I should study and what not, were decided by them. I had no other choice, so I did what they wanted.
Now, I'm 22, and their next wish is to get me married. Mom said, 'within 2 years i want to get you married. We'll have to find a good boy soon and i want you to get engaged. After two years you will get married. '
I told my dad that I don't want to get married until I complete my studies and get a job. Dad said, 'you can study after Marraige. It's our responsibility to get you married. '
Responsibility?????
What is responsibility? Making their daughter do what they want? Against her wishes? So that the society won't talk rubbish about them?
The problem I face now, between all these, is that I fell in love. In love with someone who is completely the opposite of me. If I want to marry him, then I have to break "the 3 rules of Indian marraiges".
Spending time with him is like, I'm going through the most beautiful time of my life. There's nothing more exciting than hanging out with him. And all those memories, those Sweet moments, the tight hug i gave him everytime i ride on his bike, the cup of coffee we shared, the day we ate from the same plate,the movies I saw with him, lying on his shoulders, holding his hands, having the best days of my life; I can't imagine all these with any other person. I can't even think of holding the hands of a person other than him.
But, I don't want to hurt my parents. And I don't want to break his heart. I feel like I'm stuck between these two; i want my parents to be happy, and I want to spend my life with him, and doesn't want to break his heart. Both of these is not possible.
So, should I go against my mom and dad, who never made my dreams and wishes come true, but cares about me and loves me a lot and go to him, who show me a new way of life
Or, should I just break his heart, move on, and do what mom and dad wants?
If I do, my marraige will be an adjustment, else it will be love.
Adjustment or love?
