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"Expectations hurt"
A commonly used phrase, isnt it? The concept is quite simple, when you expect much from someone, he lets you down, you get hurt. Thats what we've always been lead to believe.
This simple two worded yet so complicated phrase, has always been viewed from only one perspective. One expects, and gets hurt. Thats it, thats the only point of view which has grown roots pretty deep in our fragile human minds.
I beg to differ.
I believe there could be MORE to this phrase than what meets the eye.
We have always been told, that expectations hurts those who expect much.
What has not crossed our minds, however, is that expectations can and will hurt the one from whom much is expected as well! 
Let me explain how
Imagine a man or a woman going through the perilous grind of daily struggles. No one has it easy, we've all dealt with out fair share of troubles. But instead of considering anyone's emotions or their hardships, we put immense psychological pressure on the person we expect a great outcome from. So now instead of focusing on their goal, their energy is wasted trying to deal with the pressure forcefully put upon them by their family, friends, peers etc. The rest of the energy they are left with may or may not be sufficient for them to keep going. And thats how efficiency is reduced.
Even if they dont take the psychological pressure as seriously as i'm making it sound, what happens after they fail to achieve the goals set so high by everybody else but themselves? They let everybody down, and everybody turns away. Dont you think the sadness of failure was enough for them already? Yet, they have to not only deal with defeat, but with the dissappointed faces of their acqaintances as well. That doubles their hurt. 
Here, the thing that should be kept in mind is that pressure wont make people do great things. Encouragement will. And even if one fails, their failure should not be deemed as the ultimate downfall.