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I Give UP – The Juice Is Not Worth The Squeeze

I talk about myself a lot in these posts.  Some people say I’m too introspective and that I should talk about general topics and not topics that relate directly to me.  So, with that piece of advice, that is definite something I am going to explore.  For now, though, this may be the last introspective post I write for a little while.  I just hope with these posts that some people can relate.

As this is my last post, I want to make it a good one.  This is going to be somewhat of a rant, only a little bit deeper, with a hint of my own disappointment in the words.  Speaking of disappointment, I am really disheartened by the dating scene, internet dating.  It seems like interactions went smoother and there was more of an effort on the girl’s part to keep up conversation several years ago.  It’s almost like as I’ve gotten deeper into my 20s, the more horrific the dating scene becomes.

When it comes to girls, there are 2 things I respect a lot: A woman who has good social skills and can keep a conversation flowing and interesting & a woman who approaches guys first.  Honestly, I’m tired.  I am so fucking tired of having to put SO MUCH EFFORT into writing to these girls online and getting, eitherNO response or a 2 worded response with NO interest on her part of keeping a conversation alive.  When there is fuck-all information in her profile, what the fuck am I meant to say?  Do I comment on her looks?  She probably hears that shite all the time, it’s nothing new.

Here’s a typical interaction of my online ‘conversation’ with a woman:

Me: Hey, how are you?  You look pretty, I love your hair.  (I may comment on something that she HAS written on her profile)

Her: Hey, thanks

Me: So, have you managed to go on dates on this site or meet anyone interesting?

Her: No tbh

Me: Oh kay, cool cool, me neither but I haven’t been on this that long!

Her: Aw

Me: *Stumped for words so I just block her*

This ‘interaction’ could happen with maybe 5 or 6 different girls.  Like, where is the incentive for me to keep doing this?  Where is the effort on her part?  If she doesn’t like me, thenDON’T WRITE BACK TO ME.  I may send out 30 messages a day and get 5 or 6 replies. Occasionally, a girl will write to me, but she usually lives hundreds of miles away from me and I don’t like long distance relationships.

I don’t blame girls for not replying, like obviously I’m not going to appeal to everyone and she could also be swamped with messages from plenty of thirsty guys with their pants around their ankles.

Tinder is similarly a fucking joke.  I might get 2 or 3 matches a month and AS USUAL I must start the conversation.  No one replies.  If they do reply they ask me some retarded question just designed to troll or be insincere.  I’m not interested in playing their fucking games.

It’s been said before and I totally agree: Woman could NEVER handle the rejection guys face daily.  With guys, if you want success it’s a numbers game.  I talk to ten women, I’m probably going to be rejected.  If I talk to 50 women, I might have 2 successes. If I talk to 100 women, I might have 5 successes.

I want to have a laugh and get to know someone.  The REAL person they are.  Away from all the superficial horseshit.  I’ve known what it’s like to be in love and to be loved and I know what it’s like to fuck a girl I don’t give two shits about.  The latter is HORRIFC and I will never do it again.  It’s so hard to find some decent or common ground and someone who is just open, interesting, curious and fun.

I’m giving up on the notion of romantic love. In this day, I don’t think it exists.  I don’t know what women are looking for, but I don’t think it’s me.  Honestly, If I was to say this 5 years ago, this would have bothered me.  Now, at 26 and not having dated or slept with someone in well over a year, I am very well adjusted to a life without women.

I don’t know what it is, but I don’t think there is much softness or vulnerability in the world now.  People seem so aggressive and borderline hostile to one another.  There is this total lack of trust.  Honestly, I’m disgusted at both sexes.  I’m disgusted with how highly men value sex and not connection and I’m disgusted by how women use men for ego-boosts on social media and dating profiles. I’m disgusted with how women take their clothes off for guys who pay them.  It’s a vile society where we lack softness, trust, vulnerability and openness.  I don’t know who’s to blame.  I don’t know who started this. 

I ask myself most days with women: Is the juice worth the squeeze? No.  No, it is not.  I’m too tired to put in the astronomical effort it takes on my part to get ANYTHING going. What do they have to offer me?  So, little it seems.  If I want a romantic, spiritual or emotional connection with someone, I can either keep being the person I am: Kind of introverted, introspective, curious and open or I can join the ranks of the Love Island crowd and put my fucking heart in a box and just leave it there while my dick does all the talking.

 

For now, though, I give up.  It’s just not worth it.

Comments

  • There is nothing wrong with being *introspective*You are willing to look inward, and not just settle for the first thing, or anything lower than personal standards. I do understand where you are coming from. I been feeling the same way about the whole idea of dating. I been celebrant going on 4 years now, but it's not going to be easy to get with me. Past experience has taught me better. Please don't give up on being you. The world can try to tell you who you are, but, it's redundant. They don't know your thoughts, feelings or if any emotional damage has been done. Kudos to you.... My heart hopes for you.

    Jul 18, 2018

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