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Your reputation is something that precedes you. It can not “not” precede you. You created it. It is real. You can destroy something you created, but you can’t erase the fact that it ever existed.

It is what is heard about you from other people who have formed an opinion about you. Based on what others hear and see. More often than not, it has a positive implication. But, when it doesn’t, you may have more to come to terms with than you’re willing to admit to yourself. Something doesn’t come from nothing. If you’re doing something that raises questions, there is an explanation not far from the gossip.

Don’t be critical of others because of the perception you gave them based on what has been seen or heard. There are three sides to every story. Yours, theirs and the truth. Your best hope is to work against the perception that is viewed upon you. Use that energy to create a new one. This meaning that you acknowledge it was the wrong one to create. Admitting the intention and the terms upon which it has affected others. 

This is initiated by breaking away from the ones that influenced said reputation and starting back with the person you were before, giving you a familiar place to start or in a sense become again. It is apparent that person was accepted and cherished.

Negative views on your character are brought upon by you, because of you, for reasons that won’t be admitted by you, that now has affected more than just you, leaving you with just you, who is far from the person viewed as the old you.

Perception is reality. Just not yours. But, it’s somebody’s. Nobody can create your reality except you. They create their perception based on the reality you created. If you are flooded with disappointing perceptions of yourself, imagine how the ones that you forced away feel about themselves because of you.

They may have had to forgive someone who wasn’t even sorry. That’s not a perception. But, an undeserving reality of theirs that once again, you created.

You have lied to yourself for so long, that your reaction is to be defensive because of other perceptions of the truth about you. They may not be a fact, but they are a truth.

The burden of how they are truths isn’t on them, but from the evidence presented to them. By you. Precede yourself and you shouldn’t have to worry about how others perceive you. By doing so, you are who you are. The person that never had to worry about their reputation or at least one that had to worry about one preceding them. 

Whether you’d like to admit it or not, who you are now, isn’t who you were meant to be. Or promised…