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If you were looking for a math tutor, for instance, you wouldn't pick someone who had failed the subject or had an abrasive personality who put you down at every opportunity, you probably wouldn't hire them. Yet, when we look for sound advice for our lives, sometimes we find advisors who are not good for us. Let's look at a few types of people we should consider for help, and those we should not:

Those Who Don't Love or Care About You.

You are not going to get good advice from people like this. More likely, you will be hurt by this person. Just because they are close to you doesn't mean you can trust them when advice is needed.


Those Who Are Afraid You Will Take Their Job or Are Otherwise Jealous of You.

This person will probably sabotage your efforts. It may look like they have your best interests at heart, but in reality their motives are to mislead you to the goal that doesn't threaten what they are doing.


God is the only one who knows the heart of each person. If you are close to God, you can tap into his wisdom and find the eight people to consult. Without his wisdom, it is like a toss of the dice, pure chance you will find someone who will be the person you need.


Those Who Have Encouraged You in the Past.

A person who has encouraged you before is likely to do it again if you ask with the right attitude. Maybe a teacher or employer you really liked. Think back through your life and see who has been the most encouraging to you. 

If You Are Thinking of Getting Into a Particular Business, Ask Someone Who is Very Successful or Innovative.

This type of person may be just the one who can help you the most if they have the time and you have a humble attitude. They may not be able to help you personally, but can refer you to someone else.     

Whoever you choose to help you, be respectful of their time. Have what you need to say firmly in mind so you won't be so apt to ramble. 

You could also send your resume or a short essay about what you have done so far in life, and what direction you are thinking of going. Include a brief cover letter about yourself, and what you would like to accomplish by meeting them. 

Tell them why you chose to consult them, but don't flatter them, because it may turn them off to your request. You could put something about their expertise in the area of the industry they are in.

Even if they don't let you interview them, you may gain a new friend who can help you at a later time. The key is not to smother people with your needs, but be business-like in your approach.

Don't be discouraged if you are turned down, there will be others who can and will help you. Think carefully about how you will approach each person and be prepared with the questions you will use in the interview. Be alert for follow-up questions you can use during the initial interview or at a later one. 

You may also leave your questions with them, and let them answer when they have more time, maybe by email. Show the person you have researched their industry and their contribution to it. If you know very little about this, they will possibly write you off as being too shallow and not worthy of their time. Your questions will either help you or hinder what you want to accomplish with them. You may only have a few minutes, so be knowledgeable and to the point.